Challenges Raise the Bar

A spirit teacher shares timeless wisdom with me,                   but it seems to require never-ending intellectual,       emotional, and spiritual development. I obviously              don’t have what it takes to absorb what He seems                     to think I can. I struggle, as many others surely do,                  to live within constraints not entirely of my own        choosing.

Spirit claims that I do choose and am trying to avoid
accepting responsibility for choices I freely make.

But, how free are we to make choices when often
the choice I seem to need to make is the lesser of                   two or more unacceptable options?

Spirit is unimpressed with my whimpering. It                  doesn’t move Him. Constraints, He tells me, are          necessary to future progress in any discipline or                 area of human development, including spiritual,     intellectual, or physical, in that they provide                challenges to our present level of skill, as well as            serving to soften our ego’s otherwise smug sense                     of satisfaction in the moment of victory.

Challenges that we have struggled to face and            overcome, He claims, seem to whisper in our inner              ear, “Perhaps we should raise the bar”.

Transcending the Physical

Spirit tells me that

Transcending the physical does not

Require rejecting or neglecting

The physical aspects of our life.


Transcendence must necessarily

Include and expand from

The inside and then move

Beyond the boundaries of

Our physical and mental reality.


We are physical beings. We are also

Emotional, intellectual and

.Spiritual beings, all in one and,

All in one from a oneness



To neglect or abuse any one aspect

Of our being, is to neglect or abuse

Our being.


If we are to be neglected

And/or abused then let it be

By others, not by ourselves.




Practice or Habit

Spirit tells me that

Practice can result in

The development of

Physical, intellectual, emotional and, or

Spiritual patterns of behaviour, but that

Habits can also result in

The development of physical,

Intellectual, emotional, and, or

Spiritual patterns of behaviour.


The difference between

Practice and habit is that

Practice requires intent to

Continuously develop

 Desired patterns of

Thinking, feeling, behaving and being.

While habits can develop

Through the lack of intent and

Conscious self-control.

Abuse as beauty – in the eye of the beholder?

Spirit seems determined to force, or almost force me to face my understanding of the concept of abuse.

And, before you suggest (He was reading my thoughts, again) that my focus on abuse is itself abusive, consider the idea that you may call abuse in much the same way that a certain story book character called “Wolf”.

There is no similarity whatsoever.

You sound annoyed.


As if I was being abusive in suggesting the similarity?


I was being abusive?


Yes. Perhaps I’ve proven my point.


There was no similarity between your almost eager claim or complaint of abuse and the story. But, hopefully, you can now see how eager you were to claim a self-righteous position by threatening me with the label of abuser.

I was reacting from habit.

Yes. Why?

Perhaps I lacked the skill to..

No. You took an easy way out.


It saved you from facing the situation and accepting that calling “abuse” protects your so-called ego, that has no need of your efforts.

Then, are you telling me that abuse does not exist?

Yes, I am not telling you that. But, it cannot exist unless you acknowledge it’s existence.

What I consider verbal abuse may be no more than someone’s personal style?

Yes, sometimes. And, it expresses where that person is in his or her emotional or intellectual development.

And, when I take it personally, then it expresses where I am in mine?