Challenges Raise the Bar

A spirit teacher shares timeless wisdom with me,                   but it seems to require never-ending intellectual,       emotional, and spiritual development. I obviously              don’t have what it takes to absorb what He seems                     to think I can. I struggle, as many others surely do,                  to live within constraints not entirely of my own        choosing.

Spirit claims that I do choose and am trying to avoid
accepting responsibility for choices I freely make.

But, how free are we to make choices when often
the choice I seem to need to make is the lesser of                   two or more unacceptable options?

Spirit is unimpressed with my whimpering. It                  doesn’t move Him. Constraints, He tells me, are          necessary to future progress in any discipline or                 area of human development, including spiritual,     intellectual, or physical, in that they provide                challenges to our present level of skill, as well as            serving to soften our ego’s otherwise smug sense                     of satisfaction in the moment of victory.

Challenges that we have struggled to face and            overcome, He claims, seem to whisper in our inner              ear, “Perhaps we should raise the bar”.

Life is incomplete and non-linear

Spirit tells me that all stories are necessarily incomplete and

Non-linear, when they attempt to accurately describe life


But, I was young, once, and now I am not. Surely that is

A case for linear development.


Did you grow in equal proportions during each segment of

Your so-called linear life?


No. Babies grow faster, doubling their birth weight in a few months.


So much for linear growth.


Perhaps linear growth could refer to stages of



Are stages of growth, or development

Of equal time duration for all people and

Other life forms?


Why would stages of growth have to be of

Equal time duration to be linear?

They could have a certain sequential order

Within a linear framework.


Explain, if you can.


You’re asking me to explain? What?


Linear development.


How can I explain it to you?


Then, explain it to yourself and I’ll listen in.


I’m on slippery ground.




But, if we do not develop within a linear

Framework, then how do we?


How do we what?




In what way?


Are we going in circles?




Then what?




Abuse as beauty – in the eye of the beholder?

Spirit seems determined to force, or almost force me to face my understanding of the concept of abuse.

And, before you suggest (He was reading my thoughts, again) that my focus on abuse is itself abusive, consider the idea that you may call abuse in much the same way that a certain story book character called “Wolf”.

There is no similarity whatsoever.

You sound annoyed.


As if I was being abusive in suggesting the similarity?


I was being abusive?


Yes. Perhaps I’ve proven my point.


There was no similarity between your almost eager claim or complaint of abuse and the story. But, hopefully, you can now see how eager you were to claim a self-righteous position by threatening me with the label of abuser.

I was reacting from habit.

Yes. Why?

Perhaps I lacked the skill to..

No. You took an easy way out.


It saved you from facing the situation and accepting that calling “abuse” protects your so-called ego, that has no need of your efforts.

Then, are you telling me that abuse does not exist?

Yes, I am not telling you that. But, it cannot exist unless you acknowledge it’s existence.

What I consider verbal abuse may be no more than someone’s personal style?

Yes, sometimes. And, it expresses where that person is in his or her emotional or intellectual development.

And, when I take it personally, then it expresses where I am in mine?