Relationships and Furniture

Spirit tells me that relationships are not
usually as solid as is furniture, and
cannot, or should not be measured in the
same way, relative to each other or to
oneself.

Relationships and furniture?

Relationships as furniture.

As in possessions?

Yes.

Okay.

What does that mean?

I can see furniture …

Yes.

You interrupted …

You had completed a thought, or at least
had completed expressing a thought.

I can see furniture.

Yes, but you cannot see relationships
in the same way, at least not until
you learn to see in a different way
with a different sense.

Not with physical eyes?

Not with physical eyes alone.

Then, physical sense are an outer form?

They are more than form. They are as
radar in that they pick up signals.

And inner senses decode these signals?

Yes.

Transformation?

No.

Then what?

Translating and transcending. However,
there are potentially unlimited degrees
of understanding the messages our
outer senses pick up.

All that glitters …

Is not gold.

The lesson?

Accept the messages that you feel
seem real, while they do.

And then let them go when a deeper
awareness suggests …

Yes.

Where do Expectations Come From?

Spirit tells me tht we deprive elderly people
of the simple pleasure of self-care when
we do for them what they only require
assistance doing for themselves.

They become the object of our care and then
they begin to lose the sense of self-worth
that self-care allowed them to experience
and express.

What if they are unable, even with assistance,
to care for themselves?

When they are dead?

Not physically dead.

Emotionally?

No. Not that either.

Then?

You’re setting me up.

Yes.

Then, please explain.

Explain what?

I have been a care-giver and have
personally assisted clients with
bathing and home care, but
I have never, as far as I know,
been anyone’s first experience
in receiving paid care from.

What has that to do with anything?

Clients have expectations of what
to expect from paid caregivers.

Where do their expectations
come from?

A social worker would have
assessed their needs and …

How?

By testing their performance level
of activities of daily living.
The results would be recorded
on a scale of from very well
to not at all.

The results of the assessment
would determine what assistance
the person being tested required?

Yes.

Have you ever personally known
any client assessed as requiring
partial assistance cleaning
her kitchen or bathroom?

It’s quicker for the caregiver to do
the job alone and the time she
or he is allotted to any one client
is limited.

Then, the client becomes the job
that is objectified;?

That sounds impersonal.

In today’s so-called health care
system, client care has become
very impersonal.

So, how can we improve it?

We can learn to care.

How?

The only way possible.

Personal experience?

Yes.

I need to learn not to know

Spirit tells me that I need to learn not to know, in the sense that I can

Accept and understand that there is no absolute knowledge beyond

Which there is nothing more to learn about whatever.

 

Science serves us well in reaching beyond the limits of our present

Understanding and providing us with ever-more insights into

Whatever.

 

But, even scientists know there is more that can be and will be learned

About whatever.

 

That’s fine for scientists, but I seem to need to believe in something.

 

Do you believe in me?

 

Yes.

 

That’s something.

 

 

 

Relationships provide a sense of connectedness

Spirit tells me that relationships serve to provide us with a sense of

Connectedness, whether the connectedness is real or imagined.

 

What kind of relationships are we talking about?

 

Any kind.

 

Such as?

 

Intimate, personal but not intimate, casual, neighbourly, professional,

Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, whatever, or a combination

Of some of the above.

 

Think about it? He asks me. How? What? and whom do I relate to? and

In what way?

 

Also, He adds, bear in mind that not everything or everyone I send my

Vibrating energy waves to, by choice or otherwise, is tuned into

Receiving them, or would care to tune in, if they were not now.

 

What made me think that relationships were less complicated than that?

 

A simple outlook on the outer world.

 

Are relationships with the inner world less complicated?

 

For whom?

 

Me.

 

No.

 

 

 

Free will and community

Today’s I Ching is 60 – Discipline

Water over Lake.. Discipline follows Dispersal.

 

Spirit explains:  When a river flows into a lake then water overflows

Onto surrounding land, unless it is restricted from doing so.

 

Dispersal suggests an unorganized scattering, such as seeds or

Dry leaves by a wind.

 

There is no free will choice, no sense of freedom involved when

We have no self-control concerning where we are going with our life.

 

Self-discipline determines what we will do with our potential; how

It will be directed. Without self-control, we risk being controlled by others.

 

How to have it both ways? I need to be free and still be a contributing part of

A community. I need to think for myself and still learn from You and others.

 

Yes, we need both.

 

Then how do we work both sides of the street?

 

We don’t.

 

Then what?

 

We compromise; we find an acceptable middle ground between extremes

Of individualism and group control. But we must always be aware of

The price we choose to pay, or we risk losing choosing.

 

 

An end without a finish line

Spirit tells me that my body and the personality, or character,

That I have, with help, developed over a lifetime is not real

In any real sense, but just a means to an end.

 

If that is so then how would I recognize the finish line,

Should I ever get there?

 

An end does not necessarily mean a finish line.

 

Then what?

 

A purpose.

 

What purpose?

 

Awareness.

 

Of what?

 

Purpose.

 

 

 

Faith vs Ego as Illusion vs Illusion?

Spirit tells me that His name is Fellop, which, He explains, is not an

Exclusive and personal name, as that would suggest a false sense of

Self, such as some materialized beings seem to need to cling to.

 

Fellop is an abbreviation of Fellowship, which is a group of

Dedicated teachers who, because we are composed of

Less-dense matter than physical people, these seem to

Refer to us as spirits, invisibles, ghosts, imaginary, etc.

 

Our purpose is to help whomever we can to co-create a healthier,

More enjoyable, and more meaningful life.

 

It all sounds so noble that I am annoyed at myself for questioning

Why Spirit is sharing this information with me. My response

Seems so inappropriate and disrespectful.

 

He reads my mind but neither approves nor disapproves of

My thoughts. It doesn’t seem to concern Him at all.

 

You have a personal problem, He tells me; a conflict between

Faith and Doubt, when each is an illusion.

 

 

Someday, Somewhere in another World

Spirit tells me that, perhaps someday, somewhere in another world

Not too different from this one, we’ll replay this lifetime and

Review it together, from off-stage.

 

Then, all the little or not so little incidents that have contributed,

One at a time, to the development of our particular relationship,

Will seem to make sense

 

Then, perhaps I will understand the why and how, but

For now, please try to believe that there is purpose and

Meaning to the lives of each one of us, both separately and

As part of a greater life.

Spirituality’s Seductive Nature

It was not love at first sight, at least not in a physical sense, since I

Have not yet developed the capacity to visualize that area wherein

Form and essence merge in ever-finer elements of matter.

 

But, human and spirit qualities seem to be, in many ways,

More close than similar. And, so would be the potentially

Seductive nature of student and teacher attraction.

 

When I ask Spirit to explain why mutual attraction to

Spiritual values could …

 

Be corrupted? The corruption, or danger of such, is in

My own mind, or it isn’t.

 

He then reminds me of the countless gurus I have followed

Throughout many lifetimes, or so it seems, with each one

Falling from grace, in my mind.

 

They didn’t fall; they seemed to crash. Confucius might calmly

Comment, “No blame”, but I was, each and every time,

Devastated and confused. I was sure, beyond a doubt, again,

Again, and yet again that I had discovered a philosophy

To live by that explained everything, until it didn’t.

 

Will I meet the same fate?

 

How can I know..?

 

Until or unless it happens?

 

Yes, and perhaps that scares me.

 

Why? When it is time to move on to another teacher, we must,

Or stagnate.

 

My earlier teachers belonged to recorded history…

 

So, were less personally a part of your life?

 

Yes.

 

 

 

A powerful sense of responsibility

Spirit tells me that the purpose of His teaching is to encourage

The study and practice of an increasingly clearer understanding of

Our interconnectedness to all forms of life, human and otherwise,

And of our personal responsibility to care for and protect, not only

Our own unique individual life, but also that of the countless,

Equally unique life forms that we share our world with.

 

How?

 

By becoming intentionally aware of how we live and the negative

Affect that may have on others.

 

That would require a powerful sense of responsibility.

 

Not would; it does.

 

Is it possible?

 

Yes.

 

How?

 

One step at a time.

 

And the first step is intention?

 

Yes.