Any and All Relationships Express a Way of Life

A spirit teacher shares His understanding of timeless wisdom.

He tells me that our dreams are worlds of parallel reality to
our so-called awake world, and are designed to teach us of
potential for illusion in our everyday experiences.

While dreaming, the dream world seems real, even though it
may not be in many or any ways similar to the world we live
in, upon awakening.

How can it seem real if it isn’t?

One thing we are aware of during a dream is our own existence,
even if it is experienced as no more than an observer. We
Relate to the drama. It seems to make sense to us, at the time.
We don’t stop to question its authenticity.

So, the dream could be telling me something totally unrelated to
the scenario in the dream itself?

Yes.

Then, how do I make sense of it?

When?

After I wake up.

Do you wake up?

What do you mean?

To wake up is to become aware that human existence itself is
an illusion.

But, I’m living a human existence.

Yes

Why?

To develop awareness of the power of relationship.

Singular?

Yes.

In that any and all express a way of Life?

Yes, the only Way.

Who Is, or Are, Our Own Kind?

Spirit tells me that everyone resonates with everyone else
in a very personal style. Our individual energy systems
are magnetically attracted to other energy systems,
or they are not. But, no two relationships are or can be
identical.

We each are as a different person to every other person,
animal, or whatever we relate to in any way. Even within
families, each member relates in his or her unique way
to each other family member, pet, visitor, or friend,
as well as to strangers.

We may develop, and we cannot easily avoid doing so,
socially conditioned relationships to the world
we live in. However, this is an unnatural form of
a shared thought system. It does not change
our individual energy vibrations, except, perhaps,
to suppress them, at least to some degree.

Social conditioning does not, and cannot,
totally suppress our natural curiosity to the
world we live in, or our natural tendencies to be
individually attracted to, or repulsed by other
ways of life than those of our own culture.

But, surely, social conditioning is necessary
to ensure the survival of any culture, and
to teach its members to respect, learn, and express
the knowledge and values that have been developed
over many generations. Each culture surely has
its own way of life, its own myths and beliefs.

Problems arise for the elders and leaders of
individual societies, who are dedicated to the
preservation of traditions, as well as for those
who fear losing a position of control over
younger members who might be naturally attracted
to and curious about new, to them, ideas and ways
of life in other communities.

Then, social conditioning has to develop a sense
of exclusion to discourage members from being
tempted to learn more about other ways of life?

Exactly.

Would the elders and leaders within different
societies necessarily know themselves that
individuals possess …

Not possess; are unique energy systems. And,
the result would be the same. Leaders would still
develop taboos to discourage close association
outside of their own society.

Wouldn’t most people in most societies feel
more comfortable and at home within their own
society without needing to be conditioned
to live close to their own kind?

Who is, or are, our own kind?

I don’t know.

Yes.

Caring for Community and Relationships is Personal

Spirit asks me if I practice caring for my home.

I don’t need to practice. I know how to do that.

Do you do it?

Yes.

How well do you do it?

As well as I can, all things considered.

What things?

The time available, my energy level, and
my interest in doing so at any particular
time.

So, caring for your home is a job?

Not as a paid job. It is a duty.

A duty to whom?

To myself.

Why?

I enjoy living in a clean and well
cared for home.

Yes.

Where is this line of questioning going?

To your community and to your relationships.

Caring wise or duty wise?

Yes.

As with my home, I do what I can.

All things considered?

Yes.

What things?

Is this a second verse or round two?

No.

Then, what?

With personal possessions we have
a personal interest to care for them.

Surely we also have a personal interest
to care for our community and
relationships.

Yes.

I walked into that one.

Yes.

Perhaps We Have Reasons of Our Own

Spirit tells me that once we begin to move
uphill in spiritual awareness, we are unlike
a ball rolling downhill. It would take
an inner force to slow or stop us.

What inner force or forces would slow
or stall our progress?

Resistance to oneness.

Please explain.

We are never alone on our journey of life.
We share our experience of physical life
and its multitude of situations, events,
and challenges with a cast of seemingly
unknowable numbers of people, and other
life forms, interacting with each other,
or pretending not to.

But, in addition to all the the physical
senses are aware of, there are also
untold numbers of non-physical beings who
send their energies as loving arms,
to assist and protect us.

What good can they do for me and others
if we are unaware of their existence?

We can imagine they are with us.

Make believe?

Not exactly.

Then, what?

We each have an inner sense – call it
intuition, or conscience – of how
to respect and care for each other.

We also each possess a unique gift
or calling, some more than others,
for reasons beyond the scope of
our discussion.

We each seem to need to develop in
unique ways that emotional desire
directs us toward.

So, we need to listen to our own
inner voice?

Exactly.

As a first step to visualizing
spirit teachers, guides, and friends?

Yes.

Does that describe my relationship
with you?

No.

Yes. I thought not. Then, where
do you come in?

Not where, but why.

Then, why?

Why what?

Why would you spend precious time
and energy with a slow learner,
not to mention an aging one,
such as myself.

It’s never too late to learn. and …

And what?

Perhaps we have reasons of our own.

A dynamic relationship

Spirit tells me that He and I are as separate assortments of
energy systems, each containing the same energies as the other
but in different strengths and qualities.

We must learn to harmonize with each other, not to homogenize
our particular unique mix of strengths and weaknesses.

We must learn from the concept of Yin and Yang, who share
a dynamic relationship without denying or seeking to
diminish the intrinsic value of the other.

This is our chosen way of life, and perhaps some day
it will be so with everyone.

A controlling interest

Spirit Shares Gems of Wisdom

Spirit asks me, what is our relationship? That puzzles me, as I believe it is as a student and teacher – a one-to-one, as a private tutor, as people with money might purchase.

I am not for sale, He tells me, which is just as well, since I have no money. Perhaps I could never have as much as it might take to offer what He is worth, to me.

But, student and teacher is only part of what our relationship is all about and so I must answer, I don’t know, yet.

Can we pretend, He then asks, to be what we know we are and can we relate to each other as we do, or seem to?

Then Spirit responds to my confused thoughts and emotions with, “Yes, I seem to have a controlling interest in your life and I do, for now.”

Life is not linear.

Spirit tells me that life must be a struggle if we are to learn how to live

In such a way that serves us well as individuals, while, at the same time,

Contributes to the well-being of whatever world we happen to be

Living in at any given time.

 

What does that mean?

 

What does what mean?

 

About living in different worlds at the same time. Do you mean

During one lifetime?

 

Yes.

 

How is that possible?

 

Life is not linear. It is multi-dimensional. We each live in many worlds

At the same time.

 

Such as?

 

Each role we play in life requires us to live in a different world.

 

And each relationship?

 

Yes.

 

 

Relationships provide a sense of connectedness

Spirit tells me that relationships serve to provide us with a sense of

Connectedness, whether the connectedness is real or imagined.

 

What kind of relationships are we talking about?

 

Any kind.

 

Such as?

 

Intimate, personal but not intimate, casual, neighbourly, professional,

Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, whatever, or a combination

Of some of the above.

 

Think about it? He asks me. How? What? and whom do I relate to? and

In what way?

 

Also, He adds, bear in mind that not everything or everyone I send my

Vibrating energy waves to, by choice or otherwise, is tuned into

Receiving them, or would care to tune in, if they were not now.

 

What made me think that relationships were less complicated than that?

 

A simple outlook on the outer world.

 

Are relationships with the inner world less complicated?

 

For whom?

 

Me.

 

No.

 

 

 

Relationships as learning experiences

Spirit tells me that every relationship is a learning experience

In which each participant is both teaching and learning from

The relationship itself and from every participant, inclding

Oneself.

 

Deep or shallow? How far do we dare to go? To see deeply

Is to go deeply into the possible motives and intentions of

The other, or others, and to consider whether they are

Different from or similar to our own.

 

How far will each relationship take us if we allow, or invite it?

How will we change and how will the other, or others change?

And is it worth the effort, or risk?

 

All relationships either stimulate or drain our energy,

As well as affecting other resources, precious or otherwise.

 

Teacher, has our relationship been a learning experience for you?

 

Yes, it has taught me patience.

 

 

 

We need to wallow in self-pity

Spirit tells me that none of my many (too many to count)

Closed doors of relationships that once seemed destined

To last forever, ever existed to close.

 

How then can I tell illusion from reality?

 

They are one and the same.

 

But, I have cried rivers of tears.

 

Where are they now?

 

I don’t know.

 

They’ve been recycled for others to shed.

 

What purpose did they serve me?

 

You needed to wallow in self-pity to ease the pain of

Losing another illusion.