This time, my complaint to Spirit is about someone in my life, whom I do not understand. Her attitude and her behaviour do not make sense to me.

Spirit tells me that she is what she is because that is the way she is.

The only question that makes sense, He tells me, is why is she or why does she seems to be the way she seems to be?

The answer is, Spirit explains, is that her original nature has been modified by lived experience, followed by at least some degree of reflection on that lived experience. This has provided her with a certain degree of understanding as to the causes and consequences of her lived experiences.

Perhaps, He concludes, she is satisfied, more or less, with the way she seems to some to be.