Spirit tells me that the past that we think we remember, was not a memory then.
When we were there, it was a now, with memories of its own.
We may have lived the past that we remember, He tells me, but not exactly as we remember.
We now can look back and choose to see our then situation from the view of an observer, or stay locked into the more limited view that we necessarily had, then.
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I like this one. I think the opposite also is true, we can be more limited now if we only remember outcomes. We feel regret, forgetting what we didn’t know then and doubting that then, as now, we did our best and made the most of the information we had.
“doubting that then, as now, we did our best and made the most of the information we had” – the question arises; did we ever think about “doing our best” or did we act out of habit – an addiction of sorts? Perhaps intellectual and emotional immaturity necessarily result in immature actions. I can see much more clearly now the greater picture of what were seemingly traumatic experiences. I seem to have, until Spirit shook my mind into somewhat more expanded thinking, focused on me, when there were others also involved, who, too, may have suffered unknowingly from intellectual and emotional immaturity. Confucius seems to win, again, with his “No Blame”.