Spirit tells me that unconditional surrender is a no-win situations.

Winners become losers if their influence over other powers

Depends solely upon force.

Such a situation requires continued use of force to maintain

Control over whomever or whatever.

Whatever?

Yes.

Such as?

Addictions and other self-destructive lifestyles.

But, will power …

Will power alone can sometimes control but never

Release the need for whatever.

Then what is a solution?

A solution for what?

The tension, the stress in maintaining control.

Awareness, acceptance, understanding, compassion

For self, and respect for the so-called enemy.

And intention?

Yes.