We Develop Abusive Habits

A Spirit Teacher shares His understanding of timeless wisdom
as it applies to human nature in every situation and in every
culture; past, present, and future.

How can wisdom be timeless?

Because human nature is also timeless, in that it is grounded
in emotion.

That may be true, but …

It is true.

How does timeless wisdom apply to abusive behaviour.

Timeless wisdom inspires healthy emotions, thoughts, and
actions. Abuse of others or self is neither healthy nor
life-sustaining.

Should we forgive those who abuse us?

How can abuse be forgiven? That would be an unhealthy
response. What good purpose would it serve? None at all.
In fact, it might even encourage more abuse.

Abuse, He tells me, is unhealthy behaviour regardless of
who is abusing whom, or even whether the one being abused
accepts ill treatment. That would express self-abuse.

How then can we respond in a healthy way to abuse when
we can’t protect ourselves from it?

We make choices and perhaps past choices helped to create
the abusive situation.

Why do you speak of an abusive situation and not of
an abusive person?

There are none.

Please explain.

We develop abusive habits or we don’t.

An an addiction?

Yes.

Usually suggests exceptions

Spirit tells me that there are many more ways than one

To climb a mountain, and that straight up is not one of them.

 

Dedicating oneself to a steep climb can prove to be a

Solitary journey. But, there is no ideal way for all people.

 

More flexibility will encourage others to join us, and

There is usually no reason to hurry.

 

Usually suggests exceptions.

 

Yes.

 

Such as?

 

When the path we have chosen is self or other destructive.

 

Then what?

 

Change paths. It’s as simple as that.

 

 

 

A powerful sense of responsibility

Spirit tells me that the purpose of His teaching is to encourage

The study and practice of an increasingly clearer understanding of

Our interconnectedness to all forms of life, human and otherwise,

And of our personal responsibility to care for and protect, not only

Our own unique individual life, but also that of the countless,

Equally unique life forms that we share our world with.

 

How?

 

By becoming intentionally aware of how we live and the negative

Affect that may have on others.

 

That would require a powerful sense of responsibility.

 

Not would; it does.

 

Is it possible?

 

Yes.

 

How?

 

One step at a time.

 

And the first step is intention?

 

Yes.

 

 

 

The Horizon of My Mind

Spirit suggests that I visualize Him as

The horizon of my own mind, and to

Attempt to come closer to Him.

 

This concept seems to fit our relationship

Very well, for, as I draw closer to Him,

To His thinking, sustained, to some degree by

The gems of wisdom He provides

My sponge-like appetite,

I never seem to be able

To reach the understanding,

Awareness, and depth of knowing

That He possesses.

 

Even knowing, or believing that I know

Much more than I ever did, before

He came into my life,

He seems to be able to encourage

My development without fully

Satisfying it. Why?

 

That would end the game, He tells me.

What game are we playing?

Life.

Life?

Yes.

 

I’m playing a game I can’t win, and know it.

Spirit tells me that

I’m playing a game I can’t win.

Somehow, I suspect this may be true, but,

How am I supposed to respond

To Spirit’s sometimes power strategies.

 

Are they designed to weaken my resolve

To resist accepting as true,

anything that I can’t understand?

even knowing that my capacity

to understand is limited, or

Do I resist for the sake of resisting? or,

Have I developed a habit of resisting

The mind boggling concepts Spirit

Presents me with, to simply deny

The limitation of my mental capacity

To understand them?, and, if this is true,

Then why?

 

Wouldn’t it be so much easier

To simply give in, and say,

Okay, you win.

Am I just to stubborn to do so?

 

But, what if Spirit’s intention is

To encourage my capacity to resist being

A mindless sponge, or

A spineless sponge, if

There be such things.