Abusive Habits Become Addictions

A Spirit Teacher shares His understanding of timeless wisdom
as it applies to human nature in every situation and in every
culture; past, present, and future.

How can wisdom be timeless?

Because human nature is also timeless, in that it is grounded
in emotion.

That may be true, but …

It is true.

How does timeless wisdom apply to abusive behaviour?

Timeless wisdom inspires healthy emotions, thoughts,
and actions. Abuse of others or of self is neither
healthy nor life-sustaining.

Should we forgive those who abuse us?

How dan abuse be forgiven? That would be an unhealthy
response. What good purpose would it serve? None at all.
In fact, it might even encourage more abuse.

Abuse, He tells me, is unhealthy behaviour regardless of
who is abusing whom, or even whether the one being abused
accepts ill treatment. That would express self-abuse.

How then can we respond in a healthy way to abuse when we
can’t protect ourselves from it?

We make choices, and perhaps past choices helped to create
the abusive situation.

Why do you speak of an abusive situation and not of an
abusive person.

There are none.

Please explain.

WE develop abusive habits or we don’t.

As an addiction?

Yes.

Habits can become Addictions

 

Spirit tells me that habits are consciously developed

Patterns of behaviour or self-discipline with, or

Without intent to integrate them into one’s way of life.

 

Habits can serve a useful purpose in preparing for

Competitions, exams, performances, goals, etc., or

Just to maintain a chosen lifestyle.

 

Habits can also become addictions, when they no

Longer serve any useful purpose in one’s life, but

At some point in time the habit has taken control

Over will power.

 

I sense a question coming.

 

Yes. Which am I?

 

You are my teacher.

 

Then I still serve a useful purpose in your life?

 

You know the answer to that.

 

Yes.

 

 

 

Over will power.

 

Unconditional Surrender is a no-win Situation

Spirit tells me that unconditional surrender is a no-win situations.

Winners become losers if their influence over other powers

Depends solely upon force.

 

Such a situation requires continued use of force to maintain

Control over whomever or whatever.

 

Whatever?

 

Yes.

 

Such as?

 

Addictions and other self-destructive lifestyles.

 

But, will power …

 

Will power alone can sometimes control but never

Release the need for whatever.

 

Then what is a solution?

 

A solution for what?

 

The tension, the stress in maintaining control.

 

Awareness, acceptance, understanding, compassion

For self, and respect for the so-called enemy.

 

And intention?

 

Yes.